For some unknown reason, I had started tweeting a lot with the hashtag of #IndianParents. Just to freshen up the memory, the following are some of them.
"Its disgusting. How can you think of girls being just a teenager ?" #IndianParents
"Start studying for your exams. Only 3 more months left "#IndianParents
"With these marks, you can neither become an engineer nor a doctor. Your life is doomed nd u r better off committing suicide"#IndianParents
"I saw a porn CD on our 19 yr old son's table. He is spoilt and we have 2 take him 2 a #psychiatrist before its 2 late"#IndianParents
"Stop talking to the guys in your class. If the word goes out, none of the grooms will agree to marry you" #IndianParents
Even though few might beg to differ, I'm sure a majority would have faced these kind of dialogues in their lifetime. One actually feels that these days are gone with our generation but I have been looking at a lot of new kids in that awkward age and a new breed of parents torturing their kids with the same old medicine in a new improved pack.
Its actually quite amusing to see parents resorting to their "hand holding" behavior even when their kids have actually given birth to kids. Respect can always be overrated and many a times is misinterpreted as bad advice, which is a very dangerous scenario. Telling your parents that you are about to start a new firm and would like them only to inaugurate it shows respect. However, discussing your future as a web designer or a Java programmer with your old man who is a pensioner can lead to disastrous circumstances. I'm not undermining the suggestions of parents but more often than not, it is always advisable to keep them posted rather than get posted by them until and unless you decide to follow your parents' footprints.
The fact that one has to marry a person chosen by parents might make the westerners go #wtf but it is definitely something that will take generations to eradicate. The concept of arranged marriages is logically equivalent to you picking up a random girl walking on the road and marrying her while you are being sober. In most of the cases, the guy and the girl don't talk much before getting married and most of the unwanted talk is done by parents. The following questions have been lingering as I haven't been able to get my head around arranged marriages:1> How can the parents possibly get to know the kind of person a girl is, by just "checking her out" once, when even a lifetime is not enough to understand your spouses completely.
2> Even if you end up talking to the girl, how comfortable would you be discussing your "positions" and latex/leather/lather fetishes and that your are more of a "doggie-style" lover, all this and more on your first official privacy deprived date in front of parents.
3> The concept of a girl moving to a guy's house and getting used to his parents is most complicated part. The worst case can be a lazy nagging mother-in-law, a disease ridden father-in-law and a husband blaming you for the above problems.
It really is a gamble actually getting married like this. You know the fact that the odds of winning are very low and you decide to go all in. Guess these people will do great at the poker table with a poker face naturally seasoned over the years.
The Indian Parents take a lot of time to realize that their son/daughter has actually chosen a partner with whom they are ready to go that extra mile. In most of the cases they don't actually realize how lucky they are as they stand a chance to become grandparents. They should be happy just for the fact that their son has chosen a girl and their daughter has chosen a guy. For all we know, the daughter could have ended up using a lot of toys while the son son might have ended up with more than a sausage in his mouth.
I guess the trend is going to change soon and very soon homosexual marriages will be treated as love marriages. Who knows, even incest might be on the cards. Only time will tell.
Would love to read your opinions/experiences on this topic.
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